By Pauline Rennie-Peyton
She is absolutely right, if women could accept who they are
at whatever age they are they would be much happier.
So, what does it mean that someone your age is slimmer, has less wrinkles than you. It doesn't mean that she isn't looking outside herself and wishing she was more like you.
My big word at the moment is accept, you for who you are, the way you look and enjoy being you and the impact you have on the world.
Botox, fillers, hair colours, lifts and liposuction are not going to make any difference to your self acceptance when you wake and it is still dark. Feeling good about who you are and content with what you have created for yourself is more likely to ease you back to sleep rather than you fooled someone into thinking how young you look.
Being 50 plus is wonderful, you no longer have to worry about the things that worried you in your earlier life. Take a look at a photograph of a younger you and remember the insecurities you carried with you then. Take a good look at that young face and realise that worrying about things you could do little about - like wanting straight hair when it was naturally curly or wanting larger/smaller breasts than you had - and realise that you looked just great as you were.
I am sixty this year and this is what sixty looks and is like.
My advice, accept and enjoy who you are at whatever age.
So, what does it mean that someone your age is slimmer, has less wrinkles than you. It doesn't mean that she isn't looking outside herself and wishing she was more like you.
My big word at the moment is accept, you for who you are, the way you look and enjoy being you and the impact you have on the world.
Botox, fillers, hair colours, lifts and liposuction are not going to make any difference to your self acceptance when you wake and it is still dark. Feeling good about who you are and content with what you have created for yourself is more likely to ease you back to sleep rather than you fooled someone into thinking how young you look.
Being 50 plus is wonderful, you no longer have to worry about the things that worried you in your earlier life. Take a look at a photograph of a younger you and remember the insecurities you carried with you then. Take a good look at that young face and realise that worrying about things you could do little about - like wanting straight hair when it was naturally curly or wanting larger/smaller breasts than you had - and realise that you looked just great as you were.
I am sixty this year and this is what sixty looks and is like.
My advice, accept and enjoy who you are at whatever age.
Dr Pauline
Rennie-Peyton is a Chartered Psychologist specialising in relationships www.renniepeyton.com
Published as part of Not The Style Pages' SpeedBlog series
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